Pain: Physical pain is a very powerful leveler!

Physical pain is such a powerful leveler. No matter who you are or at what stage or place in life. Pain breaks you down and it grounds you like no other spiritual, cosmic or metaphysical thing can. It brings you down to yourself. To be intensely present with your body and your own being.

Pain penerates deep.

Pain has a way of getting to you mentally first and then emotionally. It is almost like a nerve carrying pain directly to your brain and overwriting the wiring. The threshold of enduring their physical pain has often surprised most people. And at the same time, some break down from their beliefs of the pain they thought they could tolerate.

“ Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”    
Khalil Gibran

Once the mental breakdown happens, it becomes emotionally wrenching. There is questioning about life at most extremes.

It is akin to when we attend a funeral and when we return, we question the quality of our own life. We ask emotional questions like, who loves me? Who would cry or lament over me, Or miss me when I am no more? To some more deep-rooted ones like, what is the value of my life? What am I living for? Who am I being?

pain is revealing

Physical pain makes us question our own lives. Incapacitation makes us feel more dependent. And also more vulnerable than we ever feel. And it changes us. Like author John Green quotes in his book “The fault in our stars”, he writes,

“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.” 

In the same way, physical pain does not break us, it reveals to us our inner strength. That, of what we can endure and the strenght we carry within us. When we are unable to be as ‘normal’ as we usually are. This physical pain collapses us, both physically and mentally and then emotionally.

Love and compassion can heal all wounds.

It is in these moments when we feel the need for people around us. Far more than we do in our daily lives. Family to love, partners to care, friends to cheer us up, colleagues to understand and fill in for us and so many other kinds of relationships.

There is so much we want, we desire and we expect from people around us. And also when we truly realize their value in our lives. These are moments when we are most vulnerable and willing to take help from anyone who comes forth. These are also times when we feel our voids for the people missing in our lives.

Compassion digs deeper than the wounds.

Receiving love and care melts away and heals our deepest wounds. We as humans crave physical touch. Physical touching connects us to our body, to us being alive and present. It is one of our largest sensory organs, our skins, which is also very receptive. And thus, a warm hug, a gentle caress, wiping off a tear everything becomes a heightened experience and penetrates the deepest layers within us.

In pain we let go, and also discover.

It is during experiences of these intense physical pains that our ego drops. We become completely spaced. We are just as we are. There is no solidity of the past. Only us in our bodies, aware and present.

Only a feeling. One that is changing us subtly. The sound of every sigh and moan in pain penetrates deeper and deeper within us. And that is when it is a leveler. When we are shaken out of our demeanor is when we reach the depths of our own being.

So is there something we can do to change this? Is there something we do to prepare ourselves? How much can we prepare, mentally or emotionally, unless we actually experience what the pain truly is?

Maybe not, however, there is one thing that can make some change in it. Gratitude. It is in these intense moments when we have the most gratitude for having all that we always had, all that we have or will have. And, for everything that we took or take for granted in our lives. Gratitude has a place in everything. Maybe even that last dying breath could never be thankful enough. And so it is with pain, the level that the pain takes us to can become a life-changing experience. One that grounds us. One that levels us-with gratitude!

Emotional pain:

10 books that influenced my life.

coffee, conversations and books

Reading is the insight into everything within me.

I cannot recall when I began or turned into a voracious reader. Reading books was not handed down to me. It was not pushed on to me, neither was it any outside influence…I just became one. It was of my own choosing. I do know it was in my early teens that I began to love words and simply read. I would read all the time. Not only books but magazines, billboards, labels, tags, posters, slogans. Everything. Even vehicle number plates…etc etc. if it was a language I could read…I would. Mentioned below are 10 books that influenced my life.

How reading infleunces change.

I discovered my own self while I grew up with all the reading. Through the fictional stories and their characters. Self introspections and insight into everything within me through various self-help and improvement books. Both the kind took me on a roller-coaster of someone called ME. It has sometimes been just a sentence that completely changed my life. Like my most favorite one, at the end of the book “GONE WITH THE WIND” by Margaret Mitchell which was :

“After all tomorrow is another day”.

This one line changed my life forever into becoming an eternal hopeful. I just am such a strong believer of change and possibilities.

Books that changed me.

This is a huge, diverse…OMG! So many books to talk about…kinda blog topic for me. However, if I had to begin my blog about something I totally love…I’d pick a few of these books mentioned below, that I can recall at this very moment as I write. Books that helped me grow over the years…after I was done reading Sherlock Holmes, Harold Robbins, Sidney Sheldon’s of the world in my teens. They were and still are in any random order as I can remember them the ones that shaped me :

1) The Celestial Prophecy- James Redwood

(I have read and own the entire series of it. All the insights and visions)

 This was the first time a book spoke about the energy of things, and I instantly connected to it. It talks about magic around us, about us, about life and the universe. It is beautifully written as a fiction, and yet it is also very thought-provoking. About life beyond our own body and mind.

2) The Road Less Travelled- M Scott Peck 

I read it the first time for the title. When I was growing up, I wanted to be it all and do it all in my life. To travel the road less traveled. Do something. To be someone that no one else ever was or ever did before. This book gave me, ME. I learnt from it and grew up with its values.

3) Conversations with GOD- Neale Donald Walsch

 (Again, I own and have read all 3 books, that i know of)

Omg, I love them all. Through the conversations with GOD, my entire limitation on the subject was turned around 360 degrees. My way of seeing GOD, or a divine being, or a higher force, source, has changed completely since.

4) The Unbearable Lightness of Being- Milan Kundera

The intricacies of relationships, the being, the love, the passion, the vulnerability, space to grow….all of it. In this one story. I loved every character. And, it is also one of those books one can pick up and read again and again. Each time one discovers another aspect of the characters and of life.

5) The Kite Runner- Khalid Hosseni

I loved the setting, the authenticity of the characters, the STORY. Cant beat that, that is the essence of it. No others words can describe and limit what the book really is.

6) The 40 forty rules of love- Elif Shafak

It is a book I read just a couple of years ago. If I had this and read this in my growing years, I would have loved more, even more! 

7) Rumi and Khalil Gibran

I would take myself to be of very humble disposition in having to write anything about them. Or describe what energy their words and thoughts carry. They are philosophical, YES. Life changing? MOST, most certainly. And I am in awe.

8) The Ten keys to total freedom- Gary  M Douglas 

Again a book I read only about 5 years ago. And I would say this one should be a manual one is born with. As a reference on “how to live life as it should be”. This is another life-changing book, and ever since I have begun to use every single commandment from this book and made it my own, I have changed and so has my life. It is something I will learn and use until my last breath.

9) Being You- Dr. Dain Heer

What more can a title like this need ??? All about being me, for the first time, someone truly cares and writes about who I am, as a being. Just ME being me. He says, “Be You and change the world”. It is something that appeals to me far more than the version which says, “Be you and the world will adjust”. The latter always had a sense of heaviness for me, while being myself and contributing to those around is so much more lighter and easier to do and be.

10) Paulo Coehlo

( Once again I own the entire collection, right until the latest release)

Every story is so involving and yet, at the end of the “story” is a changed life and living and being. I love the way it subtly weaves so many intricasies of our lives into it.

Why I love reading.

While I am trying to consolidate my list, there perhaps are so many more, I could think of where one word or one line or moment…changed or influenced my life. I am also pondering over why I love reading. I love it because it takes me away from my present reality into a world full of possibilities. It makes me time travel into lives and era’s I have never been in or would be in. Reading allows me to explore and know beyond my own limitations. And go beyond the boundaries that I live in. It also gives me my own solace and space to be in.

Why don’t you share some of the books that have changed and influenced your life too? While I’ll just read…some more.

Coffee…Conversations and Books.

Self Discovery!!!!!!

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Discover your self through traveling.


Traveling is not about a destination, it is a journey into itself. There are so many who are bitten by wanderlust around us. Those who can’t stop raving about how powerful it is to travel. How very revealing it is…of our own self, when we travel, we explore, we discover and we unbox ourselves beyond our comfort zones.

Traveling is certainly about the exotic locations. Or, finding the hidden, untouched, pure, sublime new places and people or cultures. And, it is also about making that road trip back and forth to the office or school or whatever the place maybe.

And, every single journey would be a different one. We would experience a different version of our selves every time we step out of the comforts of our place.

Traveling reveals us.

It is the process towards self-discovery. Everything from how we plan, what we choose, how we choose…the entire process, is an insight into who we are. What we are willing to be. And how far we are capable of stepping out of the known into the unknown.

Traveling brings into our lives stories of our journeys that we can talk about for hours at end with friends and family and strangers. Because they have us as lead roles in them.

We can have all kinds of stories. Some happy, sad, horror, crazy, funny…so many many more…and yet, each one of them is special, because it has us in it. What we live and re-live through them reveals to us, a little bit more about us, each time we say it and hear it.


Explore here is not only about places or things or people, but, explore yourself. Ask questions, who am I here? who am I being? Where am I in this?

The most important element to any discovery or self-discovery is that of being present. When we are present, we are alive to experience what it is, as it is.

Asking questions reveals us, not seeking answers.  Answers will only limit us to that definition of it, but questions expand us beyond those limitations. When we ask questions, we get an awareness, that which is true to us. That which is real to us. And trusting that awareness becomes a part of our own empowement and growth.

Explore the journey, be present in it and it will reveal secrets about you that will surprise you too.

Someone might turn out to be more adventurous than they thought they could be. Some totally fearless and then so many who may be playing safe. Pre-planning. Pre-booking…connecting all the dots.

This also gives us an insight into the kind of people we usually are under circumstances or as planners or even in our own lives.

unbox yourself 


Comfort zone for all of us is the space where we relax and find solace in. It can be a place, food, person, object or anything that spells comfort for us. It is “our” zone and we find is most difficult to step out of it. However, like everyone on the journey would say, “life begins at the other side of your comfort zone”.

When you are facing the parts of you that you may have not discovered or even acknowledged as yet, it slides us back into our comfort zone. To become aware of our own different versions itself is a greater revelation. And again that leads towards self-discovery. 

Un-boxing yourself is a gift. It is life changing and life altering. Knowing there are possibilities beyond limitations opens up a whole new dimension for us. Again all of this need not be related to a travel alone, it could be all of it on your daily path to and fro home. Maybe taking a different path, or mode of transport, or stopping by and having a cup of coffee (or whatever is your choice of beverage, foods, books…) All of this is a journey unto itself.

Unbox yourself. What you do or how you do, is a choice only you can make.

because no man is an island unto himself

Discover… YOURSELF. 

Because no man is an island unto himself.

Travel. Explore. Discover. Unbox comfort zone travelling